Now I know that if I want lots of comments all I have to do is talk about the injustice of women! We went back last night to complete our taxes and again he forgot I was the taxpayer. He kinda laughed and said oh right. He apologized in that cynical kind of way so I asked again why he always put the male first. "Does it make a difference?" I ask. He said that they are trained to do it that way and that if I had a female tax preparer they would also put the male as taxpayer. Hm, sounds like I need to do some armchair activism and write H&R Block a letter.
My husband and I discussed the event later and he said I should give the guy 4's when HR calls about the service. Our tax preparer, Jay, said we should get a phone call about how his service was and that the only number that did him any good was a 4. A four out of four on multiple choice questions. I told my husband that I would evaluate each question accurately. Then he mumbled something about how I was letting this taxpayer business get the best of my and he called me a bitch. OH-smack! I was pretty pissed about that and had to point out that I was the one getting the phone call because it was I who made the appointment and without me my husband likely wouldn't do his taxes at all. And I don't see how being honest makes me a bitch.
It was a bad night for us.
About Me
- Jennie
- I have a Ph.D. in Geology, which was on groundwater contamination. It took me five years of living on the East Coast and one year in the Midwest. Now I'm back on the West Coast (near the beach!) and have a job with a small consulting firm of around 30 employees. This job is 1 mile from my house. Let's see how I like consulting!
5 comments:
Name calling is low. Whatever he chooses to call you, a relationship shouldn't go there.
I would be pissed at the tax man, too. We are looking for a house and my husband's name is listed first on every single document. I haven't put up a fight, but I make sure that my name is right there on the same document.
My husband too thinks I get too worked up about those things, but he is starting to see that I am not doing it to be a bitch (we have many discussions on the matter). I hope yours will come around too.
I just remembered a similar sexist occasion, but this time, my husband agreed with me.
I was looking for a real estate agent, and the agent asked me a question I couldn't answer. She said, "Well don't worry about - your husband probably knows the answer." O, I was so mad, that I chose to work with someone else!
I'm with Janus Professor. Name-calling is simply unacceptable.
The other thing that's unacceptable was Jay's comment about how you should give him 4's. That would be like a waiter telling me at the end of my meal that the only tip that would do him any good is a 30% one. If it were me, I'd ding Jay in the evals for being sexist and for being a totally unprofessional.
EGM also sometimes thinks my feminism stuff is misdirected. I get really mad. When the next instance of sexism occurs, he reminds me he's a feminist too. This usually does not go over well. FWIW, I would be pretty irritated by the tax man too and would NOT give him 4s. No 4s for you!
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